Hello Again! Thanks for reading.
I told my husband that I started to blog (or do I say, "started a blog"?) He read my first one and then warned me not to give out too much personal information. Silly man. I wear my heart on my sleeve! I'll talk about anything. (Just kidding honey....I know, you were talking about information that strangers could use to identify where we live and who we are. Although in today's world, I am pretty sure anyone can find anybody at any time......it's called Facebook :)) Anyway, Mitch wished me luck and said that I'll probably have fun. He's right...so far I am having fun and have received some nice comments (on my FB link.) I'll also have to remember to consider my family in what I write on here, after all, I don't want them to get mad at me for "airing out dirty laundry" (or in my case, it's clean laundry in five laundry baskets that sit in the living room for over a week because I hate putting laundry away.) OK - get back on track Autumn - remember to be considerate of your family members - right. Which brings me to my next question...
Why didn't anyone ever tell me that once you're married and have kids....your life is NEVER your own? It becomes "our" life. This is a great thing most of the time, but there are some times when you just don't want to have to consider anyone else's opinion, schedule or feelings. Like making a gyno appointment. I hate going. I go because I am supposed to (and I'm a rule follower) and now I have to try to find some time during the week when there are no prior engagements. I have to figure out if I can schedule the appointment during a time slot without having to bring any of the kids. Really? I can't just make an appointment and go? NO!!!! The worse part about this is I have only 9 hours, 9 precious hours a week without any kids. And if I want to go to the gyno without kids, I have to schedule the appointment during one of my 9 precious hours. So now, I'm not only irritated because I'm going to the gyno, but I have to "waste" one of my kid-free hours to do so. Ugh!!! That sucks. (Side note--Mitch is more than happy to stay with the kids if he is home, but it's a crap shoot on whether or not he'll be home on a certain day at a certain time. I tried this once and got burned -- 3 kids fighting in the examination room in the middle of my exam. Therefore, if I want to be GUARANTEED that I won't have any kids with me, I have to waste one of my precious hours.) Why can't I just make an appointment and go? Because I am the Mom. I have to consider everyone's schedules and obligations, it's my job. Does anyone else get irritated that they have to use their "kid-free" hours for stupid stuff like doctor and dentist appointments? I want to use my kid-free hours for a massage, a haircut or to shop by myself for myself, not for doctor's appointments. I knew my life was going to totally change, but REALLY???? This much? Why didn't I know?
I know why -- I wouldn't have believed it even if someone did tell me.
Until later....I hope you can find time for yourself to do something for yourself.
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ReplyDeleteAutumn......I'm so glad you started a blog!!
ReplyDeleteI am not lucky enough yet to have children free time, for me the dilemma is going through all the effort of finding a sitter and inconviencing others so that I can do something I never wanted to in the first place!!
May we both find time for a massage this week!
I know exactly what you mean. My husband is great but I feel bad for him. I usually try to schedule all my appts around his schedule but it never fails....I will leave and at least 1 of the two youngest will scream the entire time I am gone. Now if it is Xavier (4mths) old he tries really hard to get him to come down but it usually doesn't work, I will walk in the door and boom, tears/screaming stop. If he is lucky enough to have Xavier sleeping then Aiden (2yrs) is usually either up to no good and into everything or he cries from the time mommy walks out the door to the time she walks back in. Right now other than those appts I don't get any mommy time. My husband says I need to just do it but its hard with his schedule and when he has a day off we try to do "family time"
ReplyDeleteKeep posting cuz I love reading it. We have one to if you want to check it out neidertfamily.blogspot.com
I haven't been on in a while and need to do some updating but will be working on that over the next few weeks.